About Shelby

DBT Therapist for Relationship Patterns & Identity Stress | Shelby Milhoan, LCPC
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor · Towson, MD

Therapy for People
Who Are Done
Shrinking Themselves to Fit

Attachment-based, DBT-informed therapy for adults navigating relationship patterns, burnout, and identity stress.

I live in the Towson area with my partner Mike and our two cats, Clove, Daphne, and Estella. When I’m not in session, you’ll find me exploring new restaurants, music venues, and shops around the city. I also love pole fitness, doing embroidery, and getting lost in a good book!

Clients often come to me feeling stuck in painful relationship patterns, emotionally drained from always putting others first, and exhausted from trying to fit into spaces that don’t fully accept who they are.

Whether it’s attachment wounds, boundary struggles, or identity stress, I help people create real, lasting change from the inside out.

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What inspired me to get into this field were the experiences I had growing up and as a young adult in my relationships with others. We don’t have to suffer alone. I truly believe we can be vulnerable, work together, and choose a path that works for us — without letting what happened to us define who we are.

Therapy that meets
you exactly where you are.

I believe that using just one approach with every client doesn’t work — because no two people are the same. My work is primarily grounded in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and I weave in a trauma-focused lens that draws from Internal Family Systems and somatic therapies, alongside a present-centered focus with a feminist perspective.

“I am a human, too. I know that your healing journey is uniquely yours — and I’ll meet you there with honesty, warmth, and the right tools for where you are.”

Together, we won’t just talk about what’s wrong. We’ll build real, practical skills that help you regulate your emotions, set boundaries that actually hold, and step into the version of yourself you’ve been working toward.

Treatment Modalities

Dialectical Behavior (DBT) Trauma-Focused Acceptance & Commitment (ACT) Attachment-Based Cognitive Behavioral (CBT) Somatic Internal Family Systems Emotionally Focused Compassion Focused Humanistic Existential Feminist Reality Therapy Eclectic Coaching

We might be a good fit if…

You’re an adult who’s ready to do something different. Maybe you’ve tried therapy before, or maybe this is your first time. Either way, you’re here because something isn’t working, and you’re open to finding out what could.

I work especially well with people navigating relationship patterns, emotional overwhelm, people-pleasing, burnout, boundary struggles, and identity questions. If any of that sounds familiar, we’re probably a good fit.

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Practice details

Format Individual, one-on-one therapy
Ages Adults (18+)
Location In-person: Towson, MD 21286
Telehealth: Maryland, DC & Wisconsin
Session Fee $180 per session
Phone (410) 929-2784
Availability In-person and online, depending on your preference

The path that brought me
here.

2014

Muskingum University — New Concord, Ohio

Graduated Summa Cum Laude with a Bachelor of Science in Psychology. Born and raised in the upper Ohio River Valley, this was the beginning of understanding how deeply our early experiences shape who we become.

2016

Loyola University Maryland — Baltimore

Earned a Master of Science in Psychology with a focus in Mental Health Counseling. Moved to Baltimore to pursue graduate training and found a city — and a community — that felt like home.

Internship

Patuxent Institution, Jessup MD

Completed her first clinical internship at a treatment-oriented maximum-security correctional facility — an experience that deepened her understanding of how trauma, environment, and mental health intersect in profound ways.

Internship

Powell Recovery Center

Her second internship at a dual-diagnosis substance abuse and mental health treatment facility is where her passion crystallized. Working with people navigating long-term life struggles showed her the power of effective, compassionate care.

Clinical

Neurofeedback & The Resource Group, Towson MD

After Powell, Shelby conducted neurofeedback sessions at a local clinic, deepening her understanding of the mind-body connection. She then joined The Resource Group in Towson, where she found her therapeutic niche in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy — the foundation of her practice today.

Today

Private Practice — Towson, Maryland

Shelby now runs her own private practice, working with individuals across Maryland, DC, and Wisconsin. She brings everything she’s learned — in treatment centers, clinics, and her own life — into a space where her clients can do the same.

Let’s find out if we’re
a good fit.

Book a free 15-minute consultation. No pressure, no commitment, just an honest conversation about where you are and whether working together feels right.

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Available in-person in Towson, MD and via telehealth throughout Maryland, DC & Wisconsin

Ready to take
the next step?

No pressure, no commitment.